Black meb dating white women
Men of character, wit and charisma, alongside whom I have spent some of the best times of my life. East and South Asians, Persians, Arabs, Native Americans, Polynesians — all options as far as I was concerned. Then came the night my girlfriend jokingly called me a racist after I rejected a list of possible options, including her brilliant and cute brother, because they just were “not my type,” my longtime code for “melanin-deficient.” We laughed about it. I pride myself on being open and accepting people at face value, yet, consciously or not, I was writing off millions of single and potentially interesting American men simply because they were white.Yet, until recently, I did not consider white men as romantic prospects. Meanwhile, my social circle is full of black women married to or dating white men.
Fear of being ostracized by those very same men or fetishized by their white counterparts. I grew up surrounded by handsome black men who were strong-minded, hard-working, upwardly mobile and worldly. At a home, it was understood that if Billy Dee Williams — not Paul Newman, not Richard Gere — should ever knock on our door, my mother was leaving with him. Still, as a rule, good Southern black women do not dishonor their communities or betray their history by willingly sleeping with white men. The same grace that is extended to black men who date white women is not as easily extended to black women who do the same.Black men are my preference, followed closely by other people of the sun.But if I meet a white man who reminds me of my father, who genuinely believes Black Lives Matter, too — and knows the words to “Shakedown Street” — I’m open. READ MORE: I want a lover, not a boyfriend Done right, benefits can make a friendship stronger I’m a black woman who doesn’t date black men. You’re not doing shit for Asian people by obsessing over your ability to pull a white woman.
White women uphold white supremacy all the time, even the ones who marry Asians.
I don’t date for approval and don’t need you or others to confirm who or what I am.