Trust in dating relationships
I told my client Fran to write down seven personal questions on a piece of paper (e.g., did he have a pet when he was growing up or where would he travel to and why if he won the lottery? She and George should then sit down together, pick each piece of paper out of the bowl, and both share the answers in front of each other. Reveal personal stories and secrets to your partner without asking questions of him or her.Studies show if one person shares something extremely personal and both people are interested in having the relationship continue, then the other person naturally responds at the same level of intimacy.Of course, building trust in a new relationship is also about you and your partner’s trustworthiness or ability to be reliable and honest.But how do you know if your partner is the kind of person who can be trusted?Your partner needs to have the ability and desire to trust you, and you need to be trustworthy.My advice to Fran and others: Understand what trust means and why it’s important, ask yourself two questions about whether trust can develop in your relationship, and then try some trust building exercises with your partner, assuming both partners are committed to the process. It needs to be present for the relationship to flourish and go forward!
Do they behave in the same way each time they are stressed out, upset, or full of love? Does your partner tell you the truth and not keep secrets from you?
You must work through or tackle these feelings head on, and neutralize your attachment to the past, or you’ll miss out on new relationships.